Yes I’ve come back! It’s been awhile but that’s ok because no one ever reads this blog anyway. Right?
But it’s still MY space on the net. Where I can say whatever I want whenever I wish.
Recently I’ve been seeing a lot of body shaming going on all over the internet. And it goes both ways. Fat girls shaming skinny girls, Skinny girls shaming fat girls, everyone shaming fit girls. I began to think to myself “What the fuck is wrong with people?”
Do women not have it hard enough already? The media rips us a new one each and every day and we STILL feel the need to do it to one another?
Ask yourself why the hell do you feel the need to drag someone else down? What did these women ever do to you?
So what she’s fat, Get over it. It’s her fucking body not yours.
So what she’s skinny. You want to be thin DO something don’t tear her to shreds because she was either born that way or did something to improve herself.
So what she’s got muscles if that’s what makes her feel great then that’s great .. HER BODY not yours.
Now I know what your thinking. “Who the hell is she to say anything?”
I’m Tami and I have been on both sides of the fence and to this day I still can’t find it within myself to LOVE myself.
I struggle daily and seeing all these fat shaming posts by other women really brings me down.
You know which ones I’m talking about. The ones that are like this “If your not fit your fucking lazy.” “If you can’t wear this your ugly.” “If your not this size your not worthy” “Real men want meat not bones.” “Curvy girls are better.”
NONE of those statements are true. But for some reason we as women post these statements to make ourselves feel better but in the process we bring others down.
I went from 270 pounds (Yes REALLY fat) to 137 pounds and when I look in the mirror I still see that really fat girl and I shouldn’t.
I am not a thin women size 8 and mediums are what I get into but according to some that’s still not good enough and according to others now I am too thin as you can see my collar bones.
So it’s just like I can’t win no matter what I do. I want to be more fit, I want to have abs and strong arms. What happens when I do that? Am I then to manly looking? Do I then no longer look like a women?
When will it end women of the world? When will you wake up and say “You know what, Shaming another person is a pretty asshole thing to do. We are all here for a reason and each of us is beautiful and we need to tell each other that more often!”
So next time you see those funny little memes that’s about to slam a whole other group of people ask yourself this. “Am I about to hurt someones feelings? Am I posting this to make myself feel better?”
When you yourself have been shamed and hurt by things you see in the media it becomes our jobs as women not to attack it with our own set of statements but pull together and embrace one another and stand up for one another.
Fat, Skinny, Curvy, Muscles. ALL can be beautiful. It’s up to ALL of us to see it, love it and embrace that we’re all different but none of the shaming means any one of us are any less wonderful.
As I learn to love myself I ask you too LOVE YOURSELF. But not only that. Love everyone man!
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