It was titled:
Is Appearance Bias something that needs to be addressed more?
I posted my thoughts there but thought I would come here and re-post what I wrote over there.
Ignorance is ignorance no matter how one chooses to spread it.
Judging someone based on physical appearance is no different then judging someone based on color, religion or sexual preference.
We can’t say that those above 3 are wrong and then follow it with “But it’s ok to hate fat people or skinny people, Or people with piercings or tattoos”
Like I said ignorance is ignorance no matter how you choose to spread it.
and now my other thoughts….
Ignorance is probably the hardest thing any one person will ever over come, It’s something that’s been programmed into our very being and half the time we don’t even really know we’re doing it.
But it can be over came, it just takes time and the willingness to change.
But others need to realize people can’t change overnight and to fight hate with more hate is a loosing battle.
We need to educate people, it’s the key to everything.
The more you teach the more they know, The more they know the more they understand, The more they understand the less likely they are to spread ignorance.
It passes from one generation to the next, if you yourself don’t stop being ignorant how do you expect your children to be good people who don’t pass judgment upon another human being.
I’ll be the first to admit I struggle daily with these little things I do that for years I never knew could hurt another person.
Something as simple as a word, But I am willing to learn and I am willing to change …
Just give me time and patients and you will see I can be a better person … Can You?
They said it was because I am on disability and that the money from disability is tax free so that’s why I am not entitled, BUT when I was on on welfare (or Ontario Works as they like to call it now) I received a tax refund of over $400.
$400 for doing nothing, I actually got less when I was working which I think is totally insane but what do I know.
I feel like I am being punished for not being able to work, It’s not a life I choose or like it’s just a fact that I am now unable to hold down a job.
So why am I being punished for that? I am no criminal.
You can sit on your lazy ass and do nothing and get more then I do, Does that on any level seem fair??
I didn’t ask to be disabled it just happened, I didn’t ask to not be able to work I tried for many years to push through the pain, to stop having these vivid flash backs in public but I could not stop what was happening and it eventually took over and I could no longer beat it.
Maybe I should go back to being a lazy drunk and do some drugs and just be an all around shithead and then maybe they will treat me better then they are at the moment.
I just feel so awful at the moment, almost like why even bother anymore.
]]>I am a midnight muncher, or late night snacker as some would say.
I can go hours and hours with out eating anything at all but it seems once the clock hits 10pm my tummy just starts going no matter how often I have eaten during the day.
I get these horrible cravings and I think it’s purely out of boredom.
I have to admit at times my depression kicks in and then I really become a midnight muncher, and it’s when I crave the worst food.
I’m sure there are more people out there who do the same thing as I do and if you my friend have found a way to help with the midnight munchies please please let me know, I’d be willing to hear just about anything to help with those late night trips to the fridge.
I am learning as I go and sometimes just getting started seems to be a task.
It’s like my mind wants to many things all at once..lol
OK well I am done .. it’s late .. and the fridge is calling .. lol I kid I kid!
]]>Haiti is one of the poorest countries in the world and need our help more then ever right now.
Everyone can do something even if its something as simple as passing this link on to other friends.
You do NOT need to donate to make a difference.
Don’t be silent, raise awareness on how to help the Haitian people today.
http://www.care2.com/causes/human-rights/blog/how-to-help-haiti/
]]>It was the year of lock down for me, as I shut myself off from the world and pretended I was no longer in it.
Sad really as I could have started the journey I am on so much sooner.
But sometimes one must take a certain journey to end up right where they are suppose to be.
I don’t make new years resolutions anymore, they are a total waste of time and more people should really be aware of that.
However I do know that through out this year I’ve changed, both mentally and physically.
Some for the better and some not so great but a change none the less, And they say change is good .. so they say…
I know where I want to go in 2010 it’s just staying the course and getting there that always seems to be my problem..(laughs out loud)
I am one of those people who doesn’t jump when a hurtle presents itself I merely miss the mark and fall on my face.
I want to change that this year, JUMP I say JUMP!
So the following is a list of things I would like to achieve this 2010th year.
I guess you’ll know one year from now if I manage to make any of it come true..(again laughing, man I love to laugh..are you laughing too?)
1. Be the best person I can be daily
2. JUMP! and do not allow hurtles to stand in my way
3. Be more kind to myself
4. Not to allow others negativity effect me as much or as often
5. Be kind to others more regularly
6. Find more patients (they say it’s a virtue … they say)
7. Do more charity work (it makes me feel good inside)
8. Get in and do my daily free clicks to donate!
9. May take up yoga or something to find my chi
10. LIVE! Go forward and try not to stay in the past
So there you have it, 10 things I would like to achieve this year or become better at.
Whatever your plans/hopes/dreams/resolutions are for 2010 I hope you too can stay the course and JUMP!
See ya in 2010 my friends!
]]>I am an addict
I am addicted to self destructive behaviour and by this I mean….
For a very long time I have been in self destruct mode and never really wanted to admit it.
I am an alcoholic even though I no longer drink the way I use to I will forever struggle with that addiction.
For 14 years I was addicted to smoking (been smoke free for 6 wks)
I am a former drug user, I beat that demon thankfully.
I am a former cutter, another addiction that I struggle to control but have managed to keep it under wraps for many years now.
I am a bulimic who starves herself to such a point that when I eat I binge and over eat.
I am addicted to food and not the good types of food either.
I am addicted to chocolate and anything else fatty and sweet.
Over the years I’ve swapped out one addiction for another, over and over like a never ending roller coaster ride.
Back and forth from one addiction to another.
Not ever realizing that there really was a problem.
All of it is self destructive, right down to the people I chose to have around me and the men I dated.
For reasons I’ve still yet learned I use to draw these people to me, It was like something about me made them know they could hurt me and I would just blame myself.
I lived in that self loathing mode for so very long and I have just begun to come out of it now…32 years later…wow
There now I’ve said it I AM AN ADDICT! may I now move forward and become the person I always known I could be….